True feeling of lack, lived as a painful experience when it springs, the emotional dependence is an evil that requires to be treated, not to suffer any more.
To succeed in living without the other, to no longer have this feeling of not being loved, several solutions are possible: therapies that adapt to individuals and the degree of emotional dependence they suffer.
Before considering any form of therapy to overcome this, it is important to understand why emotional dependence makes us suffer so much and to examine the risks.
Why is emotional dependence so painful?
A person suffering from emotional dependence is characterized by the fact that she thinks she can only exist through the other, their love or their approval. These are people who perceive themselves as meaningless, without substance or intrinsic value. A perception that manifests itself in characteristic traits such as excessive kindness, effacement, self-sacrifice … but also deep inner anxiety and relationships with others that exert intense pressure on the couple, endangering their existence same and acting negatively on each of the partners. When the situation deteriorates and the decision is made to terminate the relationship, the dependent person will seek to appease his inner painful feeling and his need for the other by going in search of a new soul mate, thus entering an endless neurotic spiral.
The emotional addict, because of his fragility, also runs the risk to become the prey of narcissistic personalities, manipulative or perverse, looking for someone they can influence. An unbalanced relationship that can lead to disaster, through verbal, physical and sexual violence.
The person emotional dependent continues to make efforts to please others, donates herself and puts their needs before her own to get lost in her way and not to be herself anymore. Through this, it is penetrated by a sense of incompleteness that reflects an emotional deficiency to be filled by all means such as refuge in food, for example.
From the moment when the dependence generates suffering, takes on an alienating character, deprives of freedom and hinders the well-being of an individual or the couple, we can speak of pathological affective dependence, whose most serious forms are the depression and more severe forms of pathological disorders, such as paranoia.
Treat pathological emotional dependence
People with emotional dependence do not always realize they are the victims of a pathology of the link and awareness of the problem is the first step in the journey to healing. Getting rid of emotional dependence requires a passage through several stages to build self-confidence, gradually, to learn to love yourself first and foremost.
Therapies to overcome emotional dependence include:
- A psychotherapeutic follow-up aimed at modifying the perception that the dependent person has of itself. The role of the psychotherapist is to help the patient to make the path to the roots anchored in him and make him believe that he is worthless. The practitioner leads the patient to become aware of neurotic functioning patterns that systematically lead to failure. This is for the therapist to "break" this belief that is to think of the person that it has no value to see themselves in a new light.
- A personal coach who helps to take control, to take a distance, to find landmarks, rewarding activities, complicity with people we love and especially … to refocus on us and develop tools powerful interpersonal communication.
- Hypnosis, a technique to eliminate the emotional problems of the past
- Other alternative medicines intended to replace a lack by something to find a certain balance through natural means: micronutrition, vitamins and trace elements, herbal medicine …
- Magnetism, a therapy by the release of energy to unblock the energy nodes
- Reiki, a natural and holistic healing technique designed to harmonize different bodies to bring about a return to physical, mental, emotional and psychic balance
- Behavioral Therapies Helping to Replace Negative Ideas and Inappropriate Behaviors with Realistic Thoughts and Reactions
- Art therapy and its specialties (music therapy, etc.) exploiting the artistic potential in a therapeutic aim.