Bad faith: what is it exactly?
Who has never been confronted to bad faith ? This indecent faculty that allows you to say things that you know are wrong or unjustified! We can either be the author or be the victim. Bad faith is often a source of tension and bitter discussion within a relationship, and it is necessary to make every effort to detect it quickly (victim) or to modify one's verbal behavior (author).
When can we be in bad faith?
Bad faith is present in our daily lives and in everyday exchanges with others. You have certainly already listened to a political debate, each party who disclaims all responsibilities and accuses his opponent or claims that he has nothing "screwed up" to his responsibilities as elected. The bad faith is also present in the discussions and quarrels of couple. You claim that he (or she) has never done anything for you since you've been together. You can also have bad faith towards your friends, your colleagues, your employer … It is present in our life. It is a real vice against which violence must be done to combat it. Let us first understand what is meant by bad faith.
Bad faith is an act that inevitably involves lying if one persists in this way as one advances in the conversation. It is resurgent ego not to recognize a fact that is obvious and at that time, it is intellectual dishonesty. Bad faith is a breach of good dialogue between two interlocutors, a serious impediment to a lasting relationship, which is why we must fight it.
Bad faith seems to have a bright future, it has become a way of being, a way for some to survive, to keep one's head out of the water, and for others, to devitalize life and maintain the heads of others in … the water. – Jacques SALOME
How to fight bad faith?
Is it possible to fight bad faith? We can be either a victim or an actor bad faith. Being an actor, if your interlocutor says you are in bad faith, just take a minute to analyze the situation, is it simply a spontaneous and unthinking attitude of not wanting to recognize a fact, an act, a positioning? or is it a deliberate attitude to want to impose a point of view knowing full well that there is no accuracy in the words (deliberate lies!). To overcome this situation, it is necessary to question each time.
If you suffer bad faith from someone, do not hesitate to position yourself firmly and convincingly, arguing as precisely as possible so that the person can understand and decode your arguments. The ultimate goal is consistency and respect for everyone's words. Two possibilities: either your positioning will echo your interlocutor and he himself will rectify his words (it requires an ego that is not oversized!) Or he will persist in the right line of his words, and he will time to close the dialogue and the conversation, and propose a latency.
