How to know how to say no to be respected? What are the tips for not feeling guilty when you can not help someone or you just do not have the time? What are the tips to succeed in trusting and winning while remaining a good person?
Today we will see several tips for learn to say "no". It is very important to refuse a few times to do something, especially in order to preserve oneself. Indeed, the "yes" are a source of problems unlike the "no". You must learn to reject proposals because it is impossible to say yes to everything without losing efficiency in your work or in your personal life.
"Yes" takes more time (going to a party, performing a task to help …), and are greater constraints. Remember that.
Most of the American writers on personal development or entrepreneurship insist on the fact that time management is the most important criterion for a human being.
You must be able to follow your desires and that's why I invite you in this article to take your life in hand accepting the idea of saying NO.
If you have questions or want to interact on my advice, do not hesitate to leave me a comment, I will answer you with great pleasure. Besides, tell me how you feel when you say "no"?
1 – Think before answering
This is not a game where the goal is "buzzer" as quickly as possible to answer. Take the time to think before giving an answer to your interlocutor. You can quite take a few minutes (see a few hours) of reflection so as not to respond to the pressure.
In addition, it will show the person in front of you that his application is problematic and that it is not always enough to ask for an immediate "yes".
Accepting the idea that you can say "No" already means taking a step forward that will allow you to assert yourself but also to begin to change your mindset towards your desires, simply by trusting yourself.
2 – Stop justifying yourself
We have all at one time or another invented an excuse for getting us out of a delicate situation. I'm telling you about the famous ones: " NoI will not be able to come tonight I have a lot of things to do for work "while our program of the evening boils down to actually slouching on the couch in front of a good movie 😉
Often, we feel obliged to justify our refusal so as not to hurt the other or to give us a good conscience. It's time to stop explaining yourself … You have the right to refuse! Just say "No, I can not" or "No, I do not want to".
I know that the first time you will be afraid but you have to try to keep your good energy of the everyday life and when the person will ask you why you can then transmit the reasons.
3 – Take a step back on the situation
After all, what are you risking to refuse an invitation?
You will not hurt your friend by refusing for example to come to his party … It may be a little disappointed, but it will be quickly forgotten anyway. Do not feel guilty! It is not because you decline an invitation that your friend will be angry with you.
It is important to try to relativize and analyze what is at stake. What will cause my refusal? Try to play down and avoid always imagining the worst. Moreover, in the eyes of others, a person who knows how to say no is better perceived than someone else who can only say "yes" to each proposal.
4 – Be careful how to express yourself.
Avoid expressing your refusal in a dry and brutal manner. You can possibly apologize, or add a simple "By cons next time why not! ". However, avoid saying "No sorry I can not, but I will come next time". Never engage in advance.
In short, express yourself with diplomacy and empathy.
5 – Do not give in!
After refusing the request of your interlocutor, the latter may insist by giving you arguments or reasons (more or less good) to accept his request. Listen to the reasons for showing your good faith, but try as much as you can to avoid these arguments. Be clear and firm, continue to refuse his proposal and do not look for new justifications. It is important to stay strong and not be destabilized or influenced. It's your choice and your interlocutor must understand it.
6 – Suggest an alternative
Try as far as possible to look for and propose an alternative.
Suppose your friend asks you to come and have a drink at his place to get some news and chat. You had planned something else and you preferred to refuse his invitation. Why not ask him if he's free the next day to talk?
In short, try to shift or find a solution to help (if you want!) The person you are talking to. If you can not solve to say no, look for a substitution solution. You will show that you are of good will, and will manage to refuse the first request without disappointing the person concerned.
7 – Go further
Knowing how to say no is the first step to take control of your life. You will avoid "suffering" the outside world to finally be able to make you 100% trust.
The goal here is not to become a closed person because I often push you out, meet people, simply open to others.
Sometimes, saying "yes" annoys you but you are afraid of the negative influence that this can have on your relationships, which is why you will have to take your time to change in depth. This article is not just about saying "No" but is a real pillar of personal development to help you trust yourself.
It is by assuring you every day that you will succeed in your life and feel good in your shoes. So trust yourself right now!
I encourage you to watch the program "Confidence in itself in 30 days" of Alexandre CORMONT, coach in personal development. You will find many tips to assert yourself and be able to say "No" even if you are afraid.
Remember that if you have questions about how to say no you can ask me in the comments and the whole personal success team will be there to answer you and to accompany you.
So, ready and ready to say NO when you feel like it?